Do you take pride in your smoking? My guess is that if you
really examine it, you take pride not in smoking, but in making
your own decisions, and being your own person. Many people START
smoking to prove their independence and control over their own
lives. No one can tell you what to do, right? That's why the
decision to quit and the motivation to quit MUST come from
inside YOU, not someone else. If you are reading this message
you've probably made the decision that smoking stinks and that
getting help and advice from others is okay now. That's a huge
step toward quitting. Congratulations! Once you get past the
pride issue, quitting becomes a whole lot easier.
The last part of the emails says, "If I quit I'll Die." What an
ironic statement. Shouldn't it really be, "If I don't quit I'll
Die"? We all know what he means though: "I can't face the
thought of not having my friend, the cigarette. I need them to
relax. I need them to cope. I need them to fit in. I just need
them to live." That's the addiction talking. He's probably tried
to quit before and felt the withdrawal--mentally, physically and
emotionally. It can be painful, almost to the point that you DO
feel like you're going to die. But, rest assured you won't.
The next message reads "Remove me from this torture." I suppose
this one can be interpreted in a couple different ways. Perhaps
the guy just didn't like my writing. Ok, I can take the
constructive criticism. But the other interpretation is the one
I'd like to focus on. I think what he really meant was this:
"Every time you talk to me about quitting smoking it drives me
insane because I know I should quit. I've tried, believe me,
I've tried. I want to quit, but I like to smoke. I need my
cigarettes. I want to be my own person. I want to *smoke* on my
own terms and I want to *quit* on my own terms. Leave me alone
and just let me figure it out in my own way. I'm not ready to
quit right now."
Is that you? Does reading about this torture you? I've had other
people ask to be taken off this list because it made them think
about smoking too much, and made them want to smoke.
Quitting can be torture, but most anything worth doing does
involve some pain or discomfort. Some things worth doing require
LOTS of pain and discomfort.
I remember how painful football (American style) practice was
when I was in high school. I banged my head against a bunch of
other guys for two and a half hours each weekday afternoon, just
to get ready for a two hour game on Saturday. Now that was
torture! But it was worth it! Once the game started, I forgot
about all the hard work I put in the week before.
I bet all the women on this list who have had children can
relate (but magnified 1,000 times). You suffer for nine months,
feeling like you could explode any minute. You may even say that
you wish you never got pregnant because it's so miserable. But
when the big day comes and your baby is born you forget about
the pain and anguish you suffered. It was worth it!
Quitting is worth it! Remember, when you're feeling like you
could "die", that one day soon, all the pain and misery of
quitting will be forgotten, and you'll be a non-smoker for the
rest of your life!
really examine it, you take pride not in smoking, but in making
your own decisions, and being your own person. Many people START
smoking to prove their independence and control over their own
lives. No one can tell you what to do, right? That's why the
decision to quit and the motivation to quit MUST come from
inside YOU, not someone else. If you are reading this message
you've probably made the decision that smoking stinks and that
getting help and advice from others is okay now. That's a huge
step toward quitting. Congratulations! Once you get past the
pride issue, quitting becomes a whole lot easier.
The last part of the emails says, "If I quit I'll Die." What an
ironic statement. Shouldn't it really be, "If I don't quit I'll
Die"? We all know what he means though: "I can't face the
thought of not having my friend, the cigarette. I need them to
relax. I need them to cope. I need them to fit in. I just need
them to live." That's the addiction talking. He's probably tried
to quit before and felt the withdrawal--mentally, physically and
emotionally. It can be painful, almost to the point that you DO
feel like you're going to die. But, rest assured you won't.
The next message reads "Remove me from this torture." I suppose
this one can be interpreted in a couple different ways. Perhaps
the guy just didn't like my writing. Ok, I can take the
constructive criticism. But the other interpretation is the one
I'd like to focus on. I think what he really meant was this:
"Every time you talk to me about quitting smoking it drives me
insane because I know I should quit. I've tried, believe me,
I've tried. I want to quit, but I like to smoke. I need my
cigarettes. I want to be my own person. I want to *smoke* on my
own terms and I want to *quit* on my own terms. Leave me alone
and just let me figure it out in my own way. I'm not ready to
quit right now."
Is that you? Does reading about this torture you? I've had other
people ask to be taken off this list because it made them think
about smoking too much, and made them want to smoke.
Quitting can be torture, but most anything worth doing does
involve some pain or discomfort. Some things worth doing require
LOTS of pain and discomfort.
I remember how painful football (American style) practice was
when I was in high school. I banged my head against a bunch of
other guys for two and a half hours each weekday afternoon, just
to get ready for a two hour game on Saturday. Now that was
torture! But it was worth it! Once the game started, I forgot
about all the hard work I put in the week before.
I bet all the women on this list who have had children can
relate (but magnified 1,000 times). You suffer for nine months,
feeling like you could explode any minute. You may even say that
you wish you never got pregnant because it's so miserable. But
when the big day comes and your baby is born you forget about
the pain and anguish you suffered. It was worth it!
Quitting is worth it! Remember, when you're feeling like you
could "die", that one day soon, all the pain and misery of
quitting will be forgotten, and you'll be a non-smoker for the
rest of your life!
